‘Mum, is Santa real?’

How to have ‘The Santa Talk’ – a tried and tested suggestion


We had to come clean to our boys last Christmas. It was high time, after we managed to keep The Secret for one final year in 2017 when they were aged 10 and 9.

Both had started to doubt Santa’s existence a couple of years prior, as they heard from a friend with older siblings that Santa wasn’t real (there’s always that ONE KID, isn’t there?!). Undeterred though, we kept insisting that he visited children’s homes. And we got away with it.

But instead of triumph came guilt. Lying to them straight to their adorable, cute little faces felt highly disturbing, and we couldn’t think of a way out without confessing to both that we had misled them with lies. Because let’s be honest, it wasn’t just one lie, it was many.

Depending on your country of origin and the traditions you observe, you may have also lied to your kids about the toothfairy, the Easter Bunny, Sankt Nikolaus, and whoever-imaginary-else you grew up with, right? That’s a lot of stories. But you can trust your instincts, you will know when the time has come to enlighten your child.

For us it was last December. We decided that if we were to break the news that Santa (and his gang of friends) wasn’t real, we wanted our lies to have a purpose. We needed to present the truth with a deeper meaning, explaining why we led them to believe in Santa in the first place. Yet we couldn’t quite find the right words to justify the charade for ten years, when at the same time we were raising our children to never lie. They were already starting to say things like ‘Santa must be real, you wouldn’t lie to us!!’

Inspiration was needed, and the internet was consulted. By researching how other parents had tackled the Santa talk, I came across a variety of ways to address the issue. Some funny, some thought provoking, others not suitable for us.

We settled on the letter that children’s book author Martha Brockenbrough penned to her own daughter, explaining Santa while upholding the magic of Christmas. It went on to inspire her book ‘Love, Santa’. 

Adjusting it where required to suit our needs, we presented the boys with it one Sunday morning at breakfast.

Good thing we had a tissue box nearby! It turned out to be a beautiful moment.

So here is a copy of the original, may it help you the way it helped us (when the time is right…) ❤️ 🎅

Merry Christmas! 🎄🎄🎄

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