Do you have two children (or more) and sometimes get fed up with the rivalry? The ‘Me First!’ syndrome is probably the most annoying side effect of brotherly/sisterly love, and it usually rears its ugly head out of nowhere, without warning.
Your children could be playing ever so nicely together in their room, no fights, no squabbles, just plain harmony. Then you call them down for a snack or drink or for whatever else and all of a sudden, it’s there. ‘Me first!’, ‘No, ME first!’, and before you know it, all hell breaks loose, right? Yep, I know, because that’s what it’s like in our house sometimes.
Well, there is a very simple solution to this phenomenon. Actually so simple that I kicked myself for not having discovered it sooner: You designate alternate days to each of your children, and that is the day they get to do everything first: get served, chose the colour of the cup (or plate or cutlery or whatever) get their car door opened first (if you child-lock them), get to shower first, get to pick the goodnight story. But this privilege also means that they must go first for those things that they may not fight over, such as teeth brushing in our case.
Ever since we introduced this in our house there has been significantly less of the ‘moaning-without-a-valid-reason’ behaviour, and the hassle has been taken out of refereeing who gets to go first.
Try it. You will love it.
And should it fail, never forget that everything is a phase. It will pass. Eventually.