What’s the secret to sleep?….. Help!

I need a plan, I need a plan so we can get some more sleep. I will Google a solution in a minute, but first I will have a little rant and share with my lovely readers….lots of whom are Mums of various age children and might just give me some useful advice.

Leo does not sleep through the night, he did for a while but that seems like a distant memory right now. As a small baby he went to bed at 7pm, fed like clockwork at 11pm, 3am then waking at 7am – perfect. At that time I admit I did slightly look forward to the days when he would drop the 3am feed, now I wish we were still on that routine as it was better than were we are 18 months down the line.

Where did I go wrong? I’m fairly sure I know, the question is how the hell do I get out of this?

By the time he was 6 months old he was sleeping through some nights, he usually still had an 11pm ish bottle but that was fine. Then we had some time staying with friends before our move to Cyprus. He was teething and unsettled and I was worried about waking the household up, so I sat with him in the night, gave him more milk, whatever I thought might keep him quiet and go back to sleep.

Then we moved, it was new, unsettling (for me maybe more than him!) he learnt to sit up and would cry until someone laid him back down. No problem, that was a phase which passed.

He had a cold, more teeth, no blackout blinds and a host of random things which occurred between November and May which I understood would cause problems.  Wait till he’s one I said, then we’ll cut the bottles, and he’ll sleep all night and all will be well.

His birthday came and went straight into a fever, mosquito bites and room temperatures of 35 degrees at night.

So, now what do I do?

He wakes at least 3 times in the night, sometimes he will have a drink and go straight back to sleep, sometimes he’s stuck his leg through the bars but more often than not there is no obvious reason.  The last two nights have been the worst, he will scream and scream until he is picked up and start again as soon as you put him down unless he is already fast asleep.

I’m off now to Google “controlled crying” (from what I’ve seen it appears to be controversial but anything is worth a shot right now) and then I’m going to bed….and it’s only 9pm.

At one week old, back in the day when we all got sleep!

Do your children sleep well? Any suggestions?  I’ll be forever grateful, once I’ve caught up on some sleep that is!

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5 Comments

  1. kalimata 2023 years ago

    Yesterdat at the meeting a mum was also complaining that her 4 year old doesnt sleep as she used to and the coclusion was that because of the move and or change of environment her daughter needed more assurance and comfort.. As your child is much younger and the babies are creatures of habit I believe he formed habit. In case he is plain hungry they recommend shadow feeding, feeding the baby before he wakes up to demand for it, and breaking the cycle of awakening. Well, you are going to wake up some more time but as you said you are now trying to change a life long habit for him. Please post if you find some answers.

  2. m1c17_4dm1n 2023 years ago

    Hi Emma, may I ask some questions pls: What is Leo’s nap pattern during the day, when/what (i.e. how much) does he eat during the day and do you have a set evening bedtime routine? In my experience all these things are totally connected with a good night’s sleep and it would help to get a bit more info on Leo’s daytime activities.

  3. Emma21 2023 years ago

    We only have a vague pattern of naps really, it varies with what we’re doing, I know that can be a big part of the problem. We had a bedtime routine but that started going a bit astray too, I think it’ been a bad couple of weeks!
    Last night we tried a new tack, I suppose a combination of controlled crying and baby whisper’s pick up/put down method. Basically once he was in bed (after bath, bottle etc) he DID NOT come out again. He cried like it was the end of the world but every 2 or 3 minutes we just went back in, laid him down and gave him his cuddly toy and walked straight back out.

    He went to sleep after about 20 minutes, we did it again when he woke an hour later, and again at 3.30am when he woke. He then woke at 7am 🙂

    We are going to do the same tonight and hopefully he will quickly start to understand that bedtime means bedtime!

  4. m1c17_4dm1n 2023 years ago

    Well, sounds like you’re on the right track then, super. The bath bottle burp routine is so important. I agree that the trick is indeed not to interact much during night time awakenings and to keep eye contact to a minimum too. Though I found it extremely hard to do at the time, I must admit it works. You may also want to try to establish a controlled nap habit so that Leo gets into a routine. The more they sleep in general the better they sleep, overtiredness can be a cause of night time awakenings. Though the line is very fine between too much daytime sleep and night time interruption too… A couple of hours or so somewhere between noon and three should be enough at his age, keeping in mind that all children are different – maybe Leo still needs a 1/2 hour just after 9 am in order to get to the noon nap tantrum free?
    Don’t feel bad if you need to wake him from the morning snooze in order to get him adjusted in the first week or so – it can only be beneficial.
    Fingers crossed for tonight!

  5. m1c17_4dm1n 2023 years ago

    Many happy returns!

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